It has long been a tradition for people wanting some action to try to find it outside of the usual circles. Maybe they didn’t want to be seen by the boss or some other upstanding member of the community. The main issue was that in those days in order to find a hookup, you’d need to hang around some unseemly street corner or semi-shady cruising area. Lucky for contemporary players, that thrill is still out there if it is desired, but the days of them being necessary are long gone.
These days, the easiest way to make this kind of connection is through an adult dating website. On a site where people are actively looking for each other and sex connection is a factor that is out in the open, it is a lot easier for people to find the specific situation needed. A great by-product of this is that people don’t necessarily need to travel to major cities or be visible looking for someone in a sketchy part of town. A straight guy, for example, can simply take a look at the women seeking men section, and he might get lucky and find an attractive woman who will be interested right near him. People are generally fairly specific about location. If she is in Pomona, NY, she will most likely say so, rather than say she is near New York City. This kind of specificity helps people find each other within a relatively small radius.
If you are looking to connect for periodic afternoon delights, the personal ads are a place where you can find others who want to be discreet. If that is the case, they will be likely to say so up front, as should you if that is your situation. In the case that both parties are looking for the same thing – namely some quick, hot sex – both are more likely to be on board with agreeing that mum’s the word.