Adult Dating History

If you have sex with someone knowing full well they are dating someone else, are you at fault?

There are two very opposite, very compelling arguements regarding this extremely common topic. Let us hear both sides of the story and then decide for ourselves.

Side One

If you are the “third person” in an affair, you technically aren’t doing anything wrong. You are single and having sex and having fun. If the person you are “having fun with” happens to be in a relationship, that is their issue and not yours. It’s not like you forced them to hook up; they made that decision on their own. Hell, they even seduced you. You know they are having as much fun as you are, and even though this may be breaking up a relationship, it is not your fault.

Side Two

You know full well that you are destryoing a relationship. How would you feel if you found out your partner was cheating on you? You would probably want to wring the necks of both your partner and the “cheatee”. Knowing this, how can you have a proper affair? You are being a huge hypocrite and your actions are extremely disgraceful. There are millions of men/women in this world for you to start a sex dating relationship with, why do you have to choose and be with someone who already has a significant other?

Decision

If you are going to sleep with someone who is taken, you should know better, but at the end of the day it is their issue and not yours.

Women don’t necessarily have to be visually stimulated in order to get off. In fact, it is easier for some woman to fantasize about having sex with a certain someone as opposed to watching an adult film. Women fantasize about sex, having sex, watching people have sex, etc. a lot more than some men may think or care to believe. A lot of women think up some pretty saucy fantasies, and wish to act them out with the men they are dating. Here is a list of some of the most common thought out female sex fantasies.

1. Domination (Both being the dominatrix and submissive)

The idea of being in charge and holding power in the sexual relationship is just as much of a turn on as the polar opposite – being submissive and not being able to control anything that is being done to you; don’t forget your safe words!

2. Teacher/Student

Pretending you are having sex with someone that society frowns upon is a major turn on. Being told you can’t do someone or something just makes you want to do them/it even more.

3. Sex with a Stranger

No-strings attached, no worries about what your mutual friends will think; this sounds like perfect sex.

4. Threesome (with another woman OR man)

Everyone has some sort of threesome fantasy. Double the pleasure, double the fun.

5. Voyeurism

Knowing you’re being watched have sex secretly by a third party intensifies sex.

6. Force Fantasies

I don’t want to call these “rape fantasies” for obvious reasons, but women love being pushed up against walls, having their arms and legs held down in a forceful manner, etc.

7. Exhibitionism

Just because women may say “no” to making a homemade porn flick with you doesn’t mean she hasn’t fantasized about being in porn at  least once in her lifetime.

8. Private Dancer

Basically the same as above. There is no way a woman would give up her job and become a stripper, but that doesn’t mean she hasn’t fantasized about giving you your own private lap dance.

9. Man in Uniform

There is something about a man in uniform that drives women’s libidos wild. They look proper, prestigious and powerful. Enough said.

10. Sex in Water

There is something naughty about sneaking around and fooling around in a pool, lake or hot tub.

Obviously there are many different thing you and your partner can say to each other during sex to enhance the experience, but according to a recently poll conducted by a Sirius Cosmo radio show there is one phrase a woman can say in bed that will please her man every time, and there is one phrase that a woman can say to please herself while in bed every time. These phrases will skyrocket your sex dating lives. What are the phrases you may be asking?

The One Phrase a Man Wants to Hear in Bed

“I’m coming!”

The one thing a man is constantly thinking about during sex is if he is pleasuring you correctly. Hearing you say you are about to climax just reminds him that he is doing a good job of pleasuring you and hitting all “the right spot”. The idea to him that you are about to orgasm and past the point of no return is extremely hot for him, and is also a “go ahead” for him to climax as well considering it takes women longer to reach that point than men.

The One Phrase a Woman Wants to Hear in Bed

“I love how you [verb] my [body part]!”

Women love verbalizing things or certain actions during sex because it focuses their attention of the act and can heighten the intensity and pleasure of it for them. Saying “I love when you nibble on my ear” or “I love when you lick the inside of my thigh” is a woman’s way of helping herself experience the pleasure that she is feeling. It’s like eating really good food; sometimes talking about how good the food you’re eating is can actually make it taste better. Also, the phrase helps you to stay in the moment. If your mind tends to wander during sex, this can be a good trick to help keep you focused and pleasured.

Here are some interesting facts you probably didn’t know about all of your favourite sex toys and lubricants. Ladies and gentlemen, get ready for a history lesson on vibrators, dildos, lubes, etc.

Fact: Sex toys and vibrators are banned for retail sale in Alabama and Mississippi. Harsh! Maybe their governments are afraid people will stop dating each other if sex toys become easily available.

* In 350BC olive oil was used for purposes other than cooking (think lube)

* In 1200AD the Chinese invented the cock ring

* In 1400 AD the dildo was invented in Italy. Usually made from wood or leather, I’m sure a lot of olive oil was used for proper usage (or at least I hope so, ouch!)

* The vibrator was invented in the 19th century to reduce ‘hysteria’ in women

* In 1899, McClure’s magazine published America’s first ad for a home electric vibrator. It was called the “Vibratile” and promised to cure headaches, wrinkles and of course, hysteria.

* In 1941 the first sex doll was created in Nazi Germany. Figures.

* In 1998 the infamous “Rabbit” made it’s appearance on HBO’s Sex in the City. After the episode aired, the demand for the pink pleasure toy skyrocketed.

A new prophylactic being dubbed as the ‘Viagra condom’ may be hitting shelves in Europe soon. This condom will definitely help men and women worldwide better their sex lives. Its main function is to not only help men achieve an erection during sex, but is also being marketed to men who become soft when its time to put the condom on, “which is a sizeable number of men” says Dr. Kieth Jarvi, chief of staff, urology at Mt. Sinai Hospital and professor at the University of Toronto.

This new condom was developed by Futura Medical who are based in the U.K, and contains a gel called Zanifi in it. When this gel comes in contact with a penis it helps to dilate the blood vessels which enhances erections and makes them firmer and longer lasting.

Futura medical has a global distribution deal for the new condom with the company who owns Durex. However the condom still needs medical approval from the North American market which could take years.

Imagine all of the satisfied men and women, both young and old, if this condom lives up to its name? The dating lives of many people world-wide is sure to improve! Not to be blunt, but I can definitely recall on a few occasions having a little trouble putting the rubber on. I was able to finish the job, but I feel the pain of men who start to lose their wood when attempting to slap on a jolly.

Sex, like every other social process, has its own etiquette. While we generally believe here in the adult dating world that anything goes in the bedroom – as long as it isn’t harming anyone – there are a few things which will probably just kill the mood with any woman, anywhere.

1. Oh, Samantha! Er, I mean Tanya!

Yelling your ex’s name is just not cool. Imagine your partner is about to climax, literally seconds away, and in the heat of seeing her get close you whisper, ‘oh yes, Samantha, I love making you cum!’ Problem is, her name is Tanya. Nothing will pull her away from the brink of orgasm like another woman’s name.

2. Nature Calls

It happens. You get caught up in things, and even though you kind of have to pee, you think you can ignore it long enough to fuck. But in the middle of rocking her boat you realize you’re going to actually create a body of water if you don’t get up to pee. So you’re like, ‘honey, hold on, I’ll be back in a sec.” And it’s kind of fine, but it’s also kind of incredibly annoying and totally breaks the mood.

3. Farting

Need I explain why this is a sex faux-pas?

4. Eerie Silence

Some dudes are just super quiet during sex. And fine, whatever, but imagine if she was eerily quiet during the whole ordeal? It kind of creeps a girl out. She’s got no indication you’re actually enjoying any of it. It’s like fucking a mattress. Help a chick out and let her know you’re feeling fine. A woman gets off partially through feeling desired, so if she can’t hear the desire, she might lose her hard-on.