Adult Dating History

It is never a good feeling to have, but it does happen. You’re finally dating a man that you genuinely like – possibly even love – and you get the feeling he doesn’t feel the same way. Maybe its the fact the he just got out of a long term relationship, or he is in some way still in contact with his ex. These following steps may shed some light on whether he is over his ex or not. Keep in mind, these are just possibilities – NOT hard facts.

1: If he’s constantly texting her.

If your man is in contact with his ex on a regular basis it does not mean he still has feelings. If he is constantly checking his phone to see if she has messages or refuses to show you the texts if you ask to see what they are talking about then you may have a problem on your hands.

2: If they attend a wedding together.

Okay, so they used to date for a while and probably have a lot of mutual friends who are getting married. It only makes sense that they attend the wedding as each other’s plus ones. However, if the thought of them dancing together, drinking together and possibly spending the night together makes your stomach turn than your should mention this to your man. If he has any sense at all he will take you as his date to the wedding.

3: If he talks bad about her.

Of course you don’t want to hear your man sing praises about his ex, however if he is constantly bad mouthing her that may be a defense mechanism on his part. Maybe his ex hurt him and he never fully got over it. Maybe his lashing out about her is his way of secretly saying he misses her. The point is, he is with you and you should be the only woman on his mind.

4: If he screams her name during sex.

Kidding, This is an obvious one.

The age old question regarding dating has always been “Who pays the bill after dinner?”. This controversial question has given way to such answers as “The man, chivalry is not dead”, “Whoever made the date pays”, “Split the tab 50/50″, “Pay for what you ate” and the extremely unpopular “The woman, feminism rise!”

Now that online adult dating has become more than just a trend and has transitioned over into an actual lifestyle for many people in this day and age, how does this age-old controversial question apply? Should you judge who pays based on who messaged who first, or who set the first offline date?

Keep in mind, this is assuming that your first offline date together will involve some sort of financial loss i.e. paying for a meal, paying to go to a museum, paying to rent skates, etc. Chivalry is not dead, but I don’t think it is fair to assume the man should pay for everything.

Whenever I go out on dates the rule I go by is “Whoever made the date pays”. However there are SOME exceptions to this rule. If you asked her out and you order the pasta and she orders the lobster and has three glasses of wine, then maybe she should help out with the tip. After all, its only fair if you knowingly pick the most expensive items on the menu, no?

When you picture your ideal adult dating relationship in your head, what is the age difference between you and your partner?

Have you ever noticed that as you get older, age difference becomes less and less important. When you were in high school, you would probably get called names for dating someone five years younger or older than you. In your twenties, it is possible than a significant age difference between you and your partner may cause a stir amongst family members and possibly friends. But when you’re in your thirties I don’t believe it matters anymore.

Think of it this way. Do you have any younger siblings? Would you consider it weird to date your younger sibling’s friend? The same goes for an older sibling, or a parent’s co-worker. Would you feel comfortable in that situation? If you are twenty four, would you date someone ten years older than you?

Another argument could be that age doesn’t negate a personality. There are some women under the age of twenty-five who are mature enough to date men in their thirties and forties. And there are men in their thirties who have the same level of maturity as sixteen year old girls.

And finally, there are some men and women who believe that “age ain’t nothing but a number”, and as long as you are of legal age they will be willing to have sex with you. Hey, if the shoe fits, right?

If you have sex with someone knowing full well they are dating someone else, are you at fault?

There are two very opposite, very compelling arguements regarding this extremely common topic. Let us hear both sides of the story and then decide for ourselves.

Side One

If you are the “third person” in an affair, you technically aren’t doing anything wrong. You are single and having sex and having fun. If the person you are “having fun with” happens to be in a relationship, that is their issue and not yours. It’s not like you forced them to hook up; they made that decision on their own. Hell, they even seduced you. You know they are having as much fun as you are, and even though this may be breaking up a relationship, it is not your fault.

Side Two

You know full well that you are destryoing a relationship. How would you feel if you found out your partner was cheating on you? You would probably want to wring the necks of both your partner and the “cheatee”. Knowing this, how can you have a proper affair? You are being a huge hypocrite and your actions are extremely disgraceful. There are millions of men/women in this world for you to start a sex dating relationship with, why do you have to choose and be with someone who already has a significant other?

Decision

If you are going to sleep with someone who is taken, you should know better, but at the end of the day it is their issue and not yours.

In the dating world, men and women can be treated very differently by society and by each other just because they are two different sexes. This is because of evil double standards. Some people say that traditions of dating between men and women have been ingrained into society and that is why women get perks in some aspects of the relationship, whereas men get other perks and vice versa. I have compiled a list of the most blatant and most common double standards in the world of adult dating.

1. Breakups

Men seem to get shafted when it comes to breakups. Unless the woman did something blatantly horrible like cheating on him with his best friend, the double standard will come into play. If a man breaks up with a woman, he is a jerk. If a woman break up with a man, it must mean he is a jerk. Either way, men are screwed.

2. Paying for a Meal

Back in the times when chivalry wasn’t dead, it was assumed that men should pay for the meal. These days, this topic is often debated. Deciding who should pay for a meal should be based upon who asked who out for the date. Seems fair. Well, the double standard here is that, most of the time men are the ones who initiate the date. Rarely do women ask men out.

3. Cheating

Now this is a tricky one, as I personally don’t believe anyone should be having sex outside of their monogamous relationship. However, many people believe that if a woman slips up and cheats in a relationship it is because her man was not satisfying her in some way; somehow her decision to cheat is her man’s fault. And the double standard here is if he cheats, it is because he has a man and an uncontrollable libido which gives him the need to band anything in sight.

4. Whipped or Clingy?

If men want to spend quality loving, relaxing time with their women, they are viewed by their friends etc. as being “whipped”. If women want to spend a lot of quality time with their man they are seen as the “clingy” girlfriend. There is nothing wrong with wanting to spend some quality time with each other, it is good for the relationship and helps with bonding.

5. Glorified and Ostracized

In a relationship that is not exclusive and everyone is aware that both parties are allowed to see other people, men are always seen as a “pimp” or “da man” if they hook up with as many ladies as possible. On the other hand, if a woman does the exact same thing she is deemed a “slut” by society. Is this fair? Not at all.