It is never a good feeling to have, but it does happen. You’re finally dating a man that you genuinely like – possibly even love – and you get the feeling he doesn’t feel the same way. Maybe its the fact the he just got out of a long term relationship, or he is in some way still in contact with his ex. These following steps may shed some light on whether he is over his ex or not. Keep in mind, these are just possibilities – NOT hard facts.

1: If he’s constantly texting her.

If your man is in contact with his ex on a regular basis it does not mean he still has feelings. If he is constantly checking his phone to see if she has messages or refuses to show you the texts if you ask to see what they are talking about then you may have a problem on your hands.

2: If they attend a wedding together.

Okay, so they used to date for a while and probably have a lot of mutual friends who are getting married. It only makes sense that they attend the wedding as each other’s plus ones. However, if the thought of them dancing together, drinking together and possibly spending the night together makes your stomach turn than your should mention this to your man. If he has any sense at all he will take you as his date to the wedding.

3: If he talks bad about her.

Of course you don’t want to hear your man sing praises about his ex, however if he is constantly bad mouthing her that may be a defense mechanism on his part. Maybe his ex hurt him and he never fully got over it. Maybe his lashing out about her is his way of secretly saying he misses her. The point is, he is with you and you should be the only woman on his mind.

4: If he screams her name during sex.

Kidding, This is an obvious one.