So you went and did something to upset the guy you’re dating. Maybe you went and hung out with an old male friend that you know you’re boyfriend doesn’t like. Maybe you told him that you didn’t like that new song he wrote, or his voice isn’t as good as he thinks it is. Either way, now you have to “man up” and make the situation better. Apologize before the situation can be held as a grudge later on in your adult dating relationship. I know saying sorry isn’t the easiest thing in the world, but here are a few tips you can take to make your guy feel better.

Be sincere. You might as well not even apologize if you’re going to do it without being sincere. That is the equivalent to pouring salt in the wound. Your man needs to know you truly feel bad for what you did. You don’t have to grovel and beg, just make sure he knows you really mean it.

Actions speak louder than words. Sometimes saying sorry just isn’t enough. Try doing something for your boyfriend that you know he will appreciate. Surprise him with a coffee and donut from his favourite coffee house while he’s working. Bring him a beer and rent his favourite movie so you can have a nice night in together. If he sees that you’re trying really hard to win him back, he will forgive you.

Don’t do it again. If you messed up with something really stupid the first time. Don’t do it again. You will just end up in hot water and this could potentially break your relationship.

Make it mean something. Don’t say sorry every time something little goes wrong. Only apologize for actions that are actually your fault. The more often the word “I’m sorry” get used, the less meaning they have.